November 25, 2008
Burn it Up?
There was a timeless scene in waiting to exhale, where Angela Bassett takes her husbands clothes outside puts them into his Mercedes Benz and sets that sucker on fire. Ohhh how the women cheered in the audience. After 11 years of sacrifice (Mary J. Blige "I'm not gonna cry...soundtrack for the movie) he decided he was going to leave her for his other woman. 90% of us woman and 50% of men have all been done this road before, but my question is should we start setting things on fire?
The rage and emotion of finding out you're not the only one and on top of that you're no longer the "one" can be detrimental, but is it an excuse to be destructive? I think not. I believe, like I have said before in Karma, eventually the bed that you make, you must lie in. The busting out the windows and cutting up the clothes takes up to much energy and is really childish. You actually allow that person to hurt you more by dwelling on whats' been done. The energy spent crying and yelling and breaking things can be spent picking up the pieces and moving on.
It is a hard task to accomplish but the quicker we get to it the faster more positive things and people start rolling into your life. You cannot allow anyone to bring the worst out of you, when you look back its' like looking at a monster. You don't know who you were and you hate yourself for the way you acted. The best way to handle the situation is to move on, keep that smile on your face and thank them for not wasting anymore of your time. The best part about it, they'll be thinking you have something up your sleeves and be waiting for payback and usually that thinking will get them just that...lol