October 28, 2008
Your Ex, My New Boyfriend?
The verdict is in, I conducted a poll asking my readers if it was okay to date a friend's ex and the results were unanimous....No! I think that dating an ex of my friends is just unethical for several reasons. First, you have to imagine every time that you're with that person that what you're doing with them your friend did as well and you have to wonder who he thinks is doing it better (if you get what I mean.) At times that comparison is just too much to bear.
Secondly, you never really know if the ex's feelings for you or genuine or them trying to get back at your friend. They could have intentionally picked you to pay back some hurt feelings that they are dealing with. You could just be playing a pawn in the game of chess and you're not even aware of it.
Thirdly, friendship that is deeply rooted should never cross those lines. Ex's are just suppose to be off limits because...their suppose to be! If you suddenly have the hots for my ex, I have to assume that those feelings were there way before he and I broke up, which leads me to think all the times I cried to my friend about my ex and she was the first to tell me to leave him, what were her real intentions? All in all, I think these may be one of those situations that test the authenticity of a friendship. I think a real friend knows whats acceptable and what is not!