My first....

My first kiss was horrible, he slobbered all over me and this foreign object was trying to make its way into my mouth. By the time we were done I needed a napkin to wipe my face. Hated kissing then, when I had no idea what to do, now its' not so bad.

My first trip out of the state was to Florida, I was 16. My trip was scheduled a week after TWA flight 800 crashed into the ocean. I had a heart attack. My mom gave me a rosary to carry on the plane. By the time I got off, I had an imprint of a rosary in my palm, needless to say I made it safe but I always pray right as I'm getting on the plane and I always look for babies, God wouldn't take their lives so early in the game...lol

My first trip to the Statue of Liberty occurred after 27 years of living in New York, after having been born in Kings County Hospital. Yes its a shame, so what! At least I did it. A wonderful experience it was too.

My first job, I worked at a corporate daycare center. I made 8$/hr, I was 16 and on cloud nine. I loved my job, loved my paychecks and spent the most money on clothes in probably all my life. It was a great experience for different reasons, met 3 of my good friends there, learned how to run a program all on my own and realized two kids is more than enough.

On and Off....

I've had the unfortunate opportunity of meeting people who have dysfunctional personalities. Individuals in particular who are like light switches. They turn on an off depending on which direction the wind is blowing. Now don't get me wrong, I can be the same way to a certain extent. I only become like this when someone has done something that is truly disrespectful or who I no longer feels deserves me in their life. (Yes I think I'm that special) However, I do not turn on and off like a light switch from Monday to Tuesday, of the same week! Nor does my light switch get turned back on once it is off.


Those kinds of people I have little patience for. You will not laugh and joke with me today and then act like I killed your mother the next day and assume on the third day we're friends. I don't do fake superficial friendships, either I'm in it or I'm not. If I don't like you, you'll know because there will be no conversation held. Yes, I'm that real! I don't sugar coat or pretend, it's not part of who I am.

I think it is very childish for these individuals to believe that this behavior is acceptable. It is not and actually these people need help. Everyone has issues in their lives. We all walk around with burdens on our shoulders, but to take those things out on the people around us is absolutely inappropriate. So if someone turns off their light switch for me, keep it off, cut the electricity, I'll find my light somewhere else.

You Don't Know What You've Got Til Its' Gone.....

We see this scenario play itself out so many times. You're dating someone, you're giving 150% of yourself, bending over backwards to be the best person you can be and things don't work out for whatever reason. You're beating yourself up wondering what you could have done to change things. The answer is nothing, for many different reasons.

The number one reason for me is that God didn't want that for me, because if he did it would have worked out. I would have got the same effort that I gave in return. You see the saying goes, if you want to hear God laugh, make plans. So no amount of affection, or love, or good will would make that person want you, it's just not meant to be. What will be for you, will be...Que Serra Serra.

And sometimes you meet people who just don't appreciate how good you are. They take for granted your kindness, your love. They don't appreciate you until you're no longer there giving them your all. That's typical, its the nature of people to take others for granted. We do it everyday when someone does something for us and we don't say Thank You, the simplest form of appreciation.

If you're the person taking someone for granted, check yourself before you wreck yourself...lol. Know and appreciate a good thing when you've got it, those don't come along too often. If you're the under appreciated don't fret, there is always someone out that it will see you for who and want you are and cherish you, for all the days of your life.

I'm Baccckkk!....A Good Man

So it's been a minute since I've voiced my opinion on some things. A lot has been going on, I'm done with nursing school, officially a Registered Nurse and my lonely days are over. Things are going in the right direction and since they are I can speak on certain things now.

What's a good man? Oh I wondered for oh so long what a good man was. Was he attractive? Was he rich? Was he a go getter? I wondered what a good man would be and even put some people in that category who didn't deserve the title. My sister gave me some good advice one day, she said "pray on it," and boy did I.
I didn't leave one requirement out and for a long time I waited, waited and prayed. You see the problem with women is sometimes we're drawn to what's not good for us. We're drawn to the bad boy, trying to change his ways and make him see that we're the "One." What a horrible way to start anything.

How do you start any relationship? You become friends, you talk about life, what your goals are, what your expectations are for people in your life and you gauge whether you and that person share the same views. Friendship is the foundation for all relationships. Ultimately we aim not to hurt our friends. You laugh with your friends, you're honest with your friends, you share all your hopes, dreams and aspirations with them. So you can imagine what a relationship based on friendship would feel like. It's fulfilling, for both individuals.

What's most important is that when you're praying for this significant other you pray for the right things. The superficial things won't get you far, good looks won't pay the bills, but a motivated person will. A rich person won't fill your heart with love, but someone who walks in the light of the Lord will love you from the bottom of their heart. Just be specific when you're praying. Know what you want and what's important to you.

Obstacles...

I thought to myself the other day, "Wow, God must think highly of me." Why you may ask...well he's always setting me up. He always throws some obstacle in my path, giving me a new challenge to overcome but I take it with stride. I take it with stride because he thinks enough of me to make me stronger for the next thing. He thinks I can handle some things so he throws them my way. I have to appreciate a father like that.

Don't get me wrong I have my moments, that split second when I say "why me" and then I quickly jump out of that mind set. I start to think, "why not me?"....I am equipped with the tools and knowledge to overcome any situation that arises. That's what I am built for. Quitting is never an option, the only option is success. I thrive off of it. I am made better every time I said to myself that I can't and I do. I am made better every time someone said I couldn't and I did.

Sometimes people feel they are given the short end of the stick and to some people it may look like I've got it real easy but no one knows my struggles, where I've come from and how I got to where I am now. His challenges made me who I am today. I'm not built Ford tough, I'm built God tough. He sustains me and now in another couple of weeks I would have met another challenge and defeated it but it won't end there. Life is all about being better than yesterday and even greater tomorrow.

Dawn Richards- If I Could

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Role Models...

I get a call from my older sister about 2 days ago asking me if Rihanna and Chris Brown got back together. Now I'm a little thrown off by this because my sister could care less about what goes on in the entertainment world, she lives in a world of her own. I reply, "Yes, I believe they are back together" and I hear creams into the phone. I pull the phone away from my ear, look at it like it's a monster and then go on to ask my sister what her problem is. She says we need to call my niece, Talhia, who is 15.

Now at this point I'm a little thrown off and I ask her why. She says to me that Rihanna has just given my niece an inappropriate view of what happens when a man puts his hand on you. It is unacceptable and therefore she is setting a poor example to young girls around the world. I have a totally different viewpoint. Rihanna, Chris Brown, Puff Daddy, nor Denzel Washington will ever be the example for my children. Celebrities are not role models, I repeat, celebrities are not Role models. They are people who are fortunate enough to have became famous and be rich and be plunged into the limelight whether they like it or not and guess what not all of them are good people to begin with.

There are tons of women who get beat every single day, they dust themselves off and continue on with their lives with their abusive spouses. Those are their choices to make and we don't control those decisions, nor do we control the decisions celebrities make. Rihanna is no different from that abused women, what's wrong with her is that she doesn't have the self worth to realize that a man has absolutely no right to lay his hands on you. That is the lesson to be taught to young girls everyday, not just when a celebrity figure gets a beat down from her boyfriend. Young girls need to know that they are valued, loved and cherished and deserved to be treated accordingly. These celebrities are human. So again, I reiterate celebrities are not role models, please be the example for those young impressionable minds that are in your presence don't allow the media to taint there vision.

Interesting...

So my friend and I were having a conversation a couple of weeks ago and we were talking about a dress that I wanted to get. Of course women must be very meticulous when picking out clothing for a special event because our first goal is to make sure that what we have on is "original". Who wants to have the spotlight shared? We go to extremes to ensure that our ensemble is like no other. Going to little boutiques, special ordering dresses or even taking our shopping spree miles away from where we live.

My male friend brought up a very good point. He said "Who cares." As per him, if a man were to go to a gathering and another man had on the same shirt, tie or even the same outfit, it would be a compliment and the conversation would go like this "You've got good taste"...lol. A woman on the other hand would try to hide herself in a little corner, upset that the outfit that she tried so hard to put together, was sharing the spotlight with another.

I used to have a friend that would ask me before we were going out what I was wearing, only to go pick her up to look like the bopsie twins. It was annoying! We all know the saying, "we weren't born together" and I certainly don't want to have everyone thinking I'm in elementary school trying to match outfits. So how did I deal with this situation, I started lying to her. She eventually got the point. Woman are attention seekers, at least most women are and when that attention is being diverted especially because the outfit you are wearing is being outworn by someone else it can be a little disturbing...lol.

Def Poetry Jam- "Hit Like A Man"

This speaks for itself....

Wow..Couldn't Have Been Said Any Better!

The Making of Gibberish by Ryan Leslie

So some people didn't understand the concept of the whole song but I think when you watch what went into making the song you have a greater appreciation for it. Music is an art form, there are many colors that can be painted on the canvas and this is just another form of music, I think at its' best. If you have ever heard of "scat" singing used in many songs of Jazz musicians, this a modern day version. Hope you enjoy it better now :o)

Domestic Violence...

When we hear the stories about domestic violence, we often hear of a woman getting battered by her spouse, a male. This is not true for all stories though, there are men who are getting physically abused as well, whose stories go untold. Abuse is abuse whether it is towards a male or female. Men are just less likely to say something about it for fear of being ridiculed.

I have seen relationships in which the female was physically and emotionally abusive to her spouse. More emotionally than anything but she had her episodes of physical abuse as well. There are some men who were raised never to lay a hand on a woman and so they endure the abuse. Or they may even feel like there actions have left them in such a predicament that they deserve the abuse and just like some women they may be battling some self-esteem issues which lead them to believe they don't deserve any better.

I feel whether it's a female or male abuse is not warranted towards either party. No one has the right to lay hands on you as a form of punishment (except your parents of course). Abuse is just a way of the abuser to gain control of what they feel they have no control over. Unfortunately, the abuser doesn't change. Whatever underlying issues that are causing them to be an abuser must be dealt with in order to rectify the situation, so flowers and cards and beautiful gifts will not change the situation. Whether male or female, the only option is to leave, that person doesn't respect nor love you if they are hurting you.

Trouble in Paradise?

Seems ReRe and Chris have fallen off of cloud nine, but than again they were never on cloud nine together since they were not "dating"...allegedly. Now there are different stories being through around but supposedly it came to fisticuffs between the two in a vehicle. ReRe was thrown out of said vehicle and a bystander called the POPO..lol...allegedly. Now I don't how true all of this is but my boy Chris does not look like a woman beater, but than you just never know. Either way the two canceled there Grammy performances and Chris turned himself in and was let out on 50,000 dollars bail. Hmph...I'm saddened by all of this, is there any such thing as a perfect relationship?

Ryan Leslie- Gibberish

I don't know what it is I love about this song even though you can't understand the words the feel of it puts me in this totally different place. I imaginge a dark night club, had a little to drink and you're dancing with this gorgeous guy/girl and you don't hear the words because you're so entwined in the moment, he/she is holding you tight and you just don't want it to end. I love it.

Guess Whose Back!

Important update: My President is Black! Another historical moment, which we were all given the opportunity to witness. I'm so excited about the "Barack" movement. The world is watching, waiting and listening. There is a vibration of things to come, there is a unity amongst us that hasn't touched this country in a long time. The time for change has come people, you're either on the bandwagon or getting trampled by it. Its' a time for sacrifices great and small. Its about all of us doing our part.

I know it's been a while since I have actually written a blog, posting youtube videos is easier to do when life is a little hectic. There some things I think are important to repeat because sometimes we forget their importance. "God is Good," through the toughest days and darkest nights, he prevails. Believe in his awesome power and there is no task too big for him to accomplish. All you have to do is believe in his power to change things, believe in his power to give you the tools to make things right when they are wrong and believe in the strength that he has given you to overcome any obstacle. That is why he is the great "I AM."

Women's FYI: I have found that the best praise is self praise. Love what you see in the mirror flaws and all. Appreciate every curve, there or lacking. He created you in his likeness and true beauty shines from within. There is nothing more beautiful than a kind, compassionate, soul. It radiates like the sun on a summer day. Be the best you, that you can be because before you can love anyone else, you must love that which will be the beacon for love.

Guy's FYI: There is nothing more sexy than a man who is sure of himself. Confidence is infectious. Be proud of who you are and stand for something. It's not enough to roll with the punches. Be respected for being different.

The Office- Greatest Moments

Keisha Chante- Next Aaliyah?

This is Keisha Chante a Canadian born R&B singer who is set to play Aaliyah in a movie of her life. So far she's got the look down and by the looks of the video dancing won't be an issue for her. I was and still am an Aaliyah fan so I hope she does my girl some justice. Check out Keisha Chante's video "Been Gone" below.

Puffy Interviewing Barack Obama 2004...

Check out this video from four years ago...God always has a plan and purpose for you...

The First Dance

I've decided that I am not lowering my standards any longer and if he doesn't look at me like THAT, than he's not even worth it. Real Love at its' best!

My President is Black.... Young Jeezy

Dear Mr. President

What would you say to President Obama...

Why Am I the Middleman?

Ever been used as the transporter for information. Everything that needs to be said to another individual must be passed through you and you must relay the message. In my family I am the middleman, the relayer (if that's a word) of information. Usually it comes from my mother to one of my sisters or brother. I guess being the last child in the house afforded me this job description but I hate it especially when the information causes a long conversation which I really don't want to be a part of.

So what do I do to steer clear of these long convo's? I don't relay the message...lol. Unless it is something of great importance the message stays with me, the relayer, until my mother has a conversation with my sisters or brother and brings up said topic. My mother will ask why I didn't tell them and I'll say because I forgot...I am a busy woman. I have then, just avoided being part of something I didn't want to be part of.

Being the middleman has its' up and downs. I am always connected to my brother and sisters. We have a very close relationship but then I also get caught in the middle when their is a disagreement and I surely am not choosing sides. I'll just play my position...the middleman I guess?

A Laugh A Day Keeps the Doctor Away...

I've made a new discovery today and that is ..that I'm not funny...lol. My best friend is one of the funniest people I know and it doesn't matter what she says its' her delivery that just puts the icing on the cake. I had the pleasure of meeting one of my good friends aunts today and she was hysterical. I mean, tears rolling down my cheeks funny. Sometimes I wish I had those kind of wits about me.

That is an awesome ability...to make people smile. You can't get enough of being around a certain person when they can make life so light and airy. You forget about all the troubles of the world. I remember being young and laughing until my stomach hurt...do you remember that? Laughing until your cheeks told you to stop. I don't laugh like that as often anymore. I guess the world gets more serious with age, things don't pull strings like they use to before.

I would try knock-knock jokes but I think I'm too old for that. I think my calling is to be a great listener, I don't know about the funny part. I'll leave funny to individuals who can succeed at making people laugh, I'll just give someone a lending ear to the joke they want to tell :o)

Biggie's Daughter Chyna Raps...

Obama's Letter to His Daughters- Inspirational

Dear Malia and Sasha,

I know that you've both had a lot of fun these last two years on the campaign trail, going to picnics and parades and state fairs, eating all sorts of junk food your mother and I probably shouldn't have let you have. But I also know that it hasn't always been easy for you and Mom, and that as excited as you both are about that new puppy, it doesn't make up for all the time we've been apart. I know how much I've missed these past two years, and today I want to tell you a little more about why I decided to take our family on this journey.

When I was a young man, I thought life was all about me-about how I'd make my way in the world, become successful, and get the things I want. But then the two of you came into my world with all your curiosity and mischief and those smiles that never fail to fill my heart and light up my day. And suddenly, all my big plans for myself didn't seem so important anymore. I soon found that the greatest joy in my life was the joy I saw in yours. And I realized that my own life wouldn't count for much unless I was able to ensure that you had every opportunity for happiness and fulfillment in yours. In the end, girls, that's why I ran for President: because of what I want for you and for every child in this nation.

I want all our children to go to schools worthy of their potential-schools that challenge them, inspire them, and instill in them a sense of wonder about the world around them. I want them to have the chance to go to college-even if their parents aren't rich. And I want them to get good jobs: jobs that pay well and give them benefits like health care, jobs that let them spend time with their own kids and retire with dignity.

I want us to push the boundaries of discovery so that you'll live to see new technologies and inventions that improve our lives and make our planet cleaner and safer. And I want us to push our own human boundaries to reach beyond the divides of race and region, gender and religion that keep us from seeing the best in each other.

Sometimes we have to send our young men and women into war and other dangerous situations to protect our country-but when we do, I want to make sure that it is only for a very good reason, that we try our best to settle our differences with others peacefully, and that we do everything possible to keep our servicemen and women safe. And I want every child to understand that the blessings these brave Americans fight for are not free-that with the great privilege of being a citizen of this nation comes great responsibility.


That was the lesson your grandmother tried to teach me when I was your age, reading me the opening lines of the Declaration of Independence and telling me about the men and women who marched for equality because they believed those words put to paper two centuries ago should mean something.

She helped me understand that America is great not because it is perfect but because it can always be made better-and that the unfinished work of perfecting our union falls to each of us. It's a charge we pass on to our children, coming closer with each new generation to what we know America should be.

I hope both of you will take up that work, righting the wrongs that you see and working to give others the chances you've had. Not just because you have an obligation to give something back to this country that has given our family so much-although you do have that obligation. But because you have an obligation to yourself. Because it is only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you will realize your true potential.

These are the things I want for you-to grow up in a world with no limits on your dreams and no achievements beyond your reach, and to grow into compassionate, committed women who will help build that world. And I want every child to have the same chances to learn and dream and grow and thrive that you girls have. That's why I've taken our family on this great adventure.

I am so proud of both of you. I love you more than you can ever know. And I am grateful every day for your patience, poise, grace, and humor as we prepare to start our new life together in the White House.

Something to Ponder...

Something I got from my sister, thought I'd share...

Whatever feelings you have within you are attracting your tomorrow.

Worry attracts more worry. Anxiety attracts more anxiety. Unhappiness attracts more unhappiness. Dissatisfaction attracts more dissatisfaction.

AND...

Joy attracts more joy. Happiness attracts more happiness. Peace attracts more peace. Gratitude attracts more gratitude. Kindness attracts more kindness. Love attracts more love.

Your job is an inside one. To change your world, all you have to do is change the way you feel inside. How easy is that?

Who Doesn't Have Issues?

Your parents are over protective and over bearing, you've been ridiculed, laughed at, misunderstood. You were molested by a close family member. Your father wasn't around, or if he was he was an alcoholic. You live paycheck to paycheck. Your mother made you feel like you were never good enough. You been cheated on, battered, at times fighting for your life. You're searching for what you do not understand, have never felt and have never heard. You chase money but can never have it. You're a loner, an introvert, you'd rather live in a world all by yourself, then let someone love you....

We all have issues, which one you subscribe to is the only thing that makes you different from the next person. The tie that binds each individual in this world is that there is something that each of us is struggling with. Whether its' financial wealth, spiritual growth, or a release from the heartaches of the past, we each aim to live better lives. We all aim to be these "self-actualized" individuals who are trying to become our better selves.

If I went through life thinking I was the only one struggling it would be real dark and lonely, but I have the comfort of knowing that each person has their own cross to bear, and mine is no more significant than yours. What we can do is help each other to make the weight bearing a little easier. What is your weakness may be someone else's strength. We have all heard the idea that God never gives you more than you can handle. It is true, he supplies you with the tools you just have to learn how to use them and once you master that your struggle becomes less weighty.

Some Light Skinned Candy...

His name is Brandon Carter and supposedly he has been around for a minute. I personally have never seen him anywhere before but he will be modeling for fashion week in New York appearing in Sean John, Phat Fram and Tommy Hilfiger. But of course like everyone who gets into the industry, he's trying to hit it big in the music business. Let's see how this works out.

My Favorite Toys...I Mean Cars

Lexus IS 350..you know how you date some people just because they're attractive...well same reason I would get this car...lol


Infiniti g37...My baby, the sound of this car turns me on, I've never heard a car speak until now...


Range Rover sport...I'd go up or down any mountain with this car...I would find a mountain just to do it!


2009 Mercedes Benz...sleek and sexy. Sends shivers down my spine..lol

Interesting Convo...

So I'm a firm believer in meeting people at the right time and for the right reasons. I was hanging out with a friend from high school and he introduced me to his landlord/friend who happens to be an Investment Banker. We began to talk about money of course, and how he decided to quit his job on Wall Street and work for himself. He encouraged me to do the same...well not quit my job on wall street but work for myself.

He proceeded to talk to me about money and its' value. The dirt on the floor is equivalent to the value of money he said. This shocked me coming from an investment banker but what he meant was that the value we place on money is irrelevant. Money comes and goes, if you want to be rich it starts with thinking rich, that I already have down packed..lol. I told him I love to shop, which he said is not a bad thing if I take half of the money I would go shopping with and hide it somewhere. Or better yet shop for insurance. Essentially forget about it and that's how you start to accumulate wealth.

We also talked about God's importance in accumulating wealth. God doesn't give to those who cannot be good stewards to what he has given them. So it is important to ask God not to give you money but to be a steward to what is truly his and not yours. If we can't take care of 50 dollars why would God let us take care of 50,000 thousand dollars.

My goal was to retire at 45, he says throw that out the window, the goal should be to retire as soon as possible and if that's tomorrow then no time limit should be placed on it. It was an interesting conversation which ended different than I thought it would coming from someone who I can assume is filthy rich. He said that more importantly than anything, above money and wealth is having "LOVE". That at the end of the day what matters most is that people love you who don't need to love you. People care for you who don't need to care because money will not buy you the most important thing..."Love."

God is good, I say it all the time and he continues to bless me even when I don't know it, so I've started hiding money from myself, let's see how this goes...lol

Dawn Richards- Fall Away

Falls Away - Dawn Richard

So miss Dawn Richards is making moves all by her lonesome, allegedly. The song is not to bad, sort of reminded me of Brandy's "FALL". Let me know what you think!

New Dream - My Love feat Mariah Carey

I fell in love with the Dream's first album Love and Hate and I think I may fall in love with his sophomore album as well. I don't know what it is about his music that is so appealing but I remember listening to that last album everyday for like 2 months..lol. I'm really liking this song..tell me what you think?

My Love - The Dream Feat. Mariah Carey

January 10, 2009

Man "Trappers"

There are women who believe that the only way to keep a man is to trap him and they do this by getting pregnant. Its' immature to think that a man will be yours because you have a child. The only thing that is created is another strain on the relationship. Babies are not toys. You become responsible for another life and the choice to bring that life into the world should not be based on selfishness.

If a man is not willing to treat a woman right, regardless of the circumstances that will not change. He will not have an epiphany about your importance in his life nor will his lack of respect for you dissipate. Living under false pretense justs sets these women up for further heartache and that child up for parents who will resent each other.

Women especially need to change the way they view relationships. If a man doesn't want to be with you, the last thing you want is a permanent attachment to him, what you have gotten yourself is a permanent headache. Let it go and move on if he doesn't value your importance but don't assume that a child fixes what is already broken.

January 9, 2009

New India Arie - Therapy

India.Arie ft. Gramps Morgan - Therapy

January 8, 2009

My Fashion Picks

I'm far from the fashionista but there are some styles that I'm falling in love with for both men and women. Here's just a few...


I'm loving who ever is styling Will Smith right now. The sweater vest under a blazer is such a classy look on guys, especially when it's pulled off like this.


I'm loving the solid and pinstripes and a well tailored suit is definitely the move, its' not enough to have one on its' how it looks on you that matters.


Montclair jackets are growing on me, not for the price but the look is cute. BTW, not feeling the Dior Boots, a bit much...


Th bandage dresses are all over the place and I'm loving them. Their simple but sexy, exactly how I like it.


Speaking of dresses, sweater dresses are cool to. You don't have to think too much about the outfit, just need a pair of fly boots to go with it.

Women's Issues

Woman deal with so many different issues in life and people, men especially wonder why we act the way we do at times. There are moments when a woman needs to quietly reflect, especially when she is on the verge of blowing her top. During this time of quiet reflection it is best not to agitate her by disrupting the silence. A woman who quietly reflects is taking the time to think through the consequences of her actions. Whether she should cut some things or just leave things alone until she can handle them more constructively.

If you're wondering if she is going through that time of the month, don't patronize her and certainly don't criticize her. This is the time to be extra sensitive to this woman. She is on the verge of a psychotic break and I'm serious when I say this. Women have mood swings when the are PMS'ing because of the elevated levels of certain hormones. It is not her doing but the blessings of the body she was born with. Walk cautiously, speak nicely and be sensitive to her feelings.

She wants to be superwoman because that's what the world expects of her, it doesn't mean that she doesn't want a superman though. She still wants to be pampered and treated like a queen, but she needs a king to do it. A strong woman needs a strong man so be her rock when she needs it. Contrary to what most women say they want a man who is in control, but just not controlling. Make plans, pick her up and take her out, she'll love you for it.

She wants kids before her eggs are rotten and her kids can be her grandchildren. It's the biological clock that all women fight. Very important info I'm about to give you: Women usually rush marriage when they want to have kids. Unlike men, women don't have until their 70's to sow seeds. So her insistence may be deeper than just trying to lock you down, it may have nothing to do with you at all...lol

These are just some of the issues that women face, thought I'd share...lol

R.Kelly Strikes Again

So…

I'm not posting this because its' good, I'm posting it because it is really, really bad! Another person who needs to crawl back into a hole, a real deep one!

January 4, 2009

Guys FYI- How to Say "I'm Sorry"

Woman can be difficult to please and even more difficult to apologize to to so here are some helpful tips on getting yourself back on the right track.

Send her a bouquet of Edible Arrangements- they make beautiful arrangements with fruits and its' not your typical bouquet of flowers.

Write her a letter- if you're good with words but unable to express yourself than write down your thoughts.

How you apologize is important- Have you ever said sorry and had no idea what you were sorry about? It is not enough to say you're sorry, you have to acknowledge what made her upset and be genuine with your apology!

Make her laugh! -even when a woman is mad she still wants to laugh. If you can do that, you've got it in the bag!

And of course gifts are always great- buy her something she has been wanting, or even something sentimental that only you two would understand the significance of.

January 1, 2009

The Purpose Driven Life - Day 5

Today's Lesson- Life is a test and a trust

God test us everyday to see how we will react to the obstacles that he places before us. It is at those times that we must challenge ourselves to be the best person that we can be. At times he will withdraw himself from us to help us to remember to keep faith, even when we think he is not there he still loves us. He has entrusted talents and gifts to us which are given to be used wisely. It is not enough to be blessed and not share your blessings!

Your Partner, Your Number One Supporter?

Relationships entail that the individual you are with encourage you to be the best person you can be, but what if that person is your downfall rather than your elevation. If the one you're with doesn't support your decisions especially ones that will allow you to be more successful than what is their purpose?

At times your significant other may be jealous of your accomplishments because they haven't achieved there own and you have to be aware of this when it occurs. Misery loves company so if they are not where they would like to be sometimes unconsciously they hold you back. Either way, an expectation of a relationship is to have a supporter when things seem impossible. They encourage you to be the best, work hard and achieve what they know is within your reach.

If you find that the person you're with agrees with you being "small" and not challenging yourself than maybe this person isn't right for you. We all need a kick sometimes and when you have finally reached your goals you will look back and be thankful you were with someone who didn't allow you to settle but encouraged you to be the best you, you can be!