March 6, 2009
So my friend and I were having a conversation a couple of weeks ago and we were talking about a dress that I wanted to get. Of course women must be very meticulous when picking out clothing for a special event because our first goal is to make sure that what we have on is "original". Who wants to have the spotlight shared? We go to extremes to ensure that our ensemble is like no other. Going to little boutiques, special ordering dresses or even taking our shopping spree miles away from where we live.
My male friend brought up a very good point. He said "Who cares." As per him, if a man were to go to a gathering and another man had on the same shirt, tie or even the same outfit, it would be a compliment and the conversation would go like this "You've got good taste"...lol. A woman on the other hand would try to hide herself in a little corner, upset that the outfit that she tried so hard to put together, was sharing the spotlight with another.
I used to have a friend that would ask me before we were going out what I was wearing, only to go pick her up to look like the bopsie twins. It was annoying! We all know the saying, "we weren't born together" and I certainly don't want to have everyone thinking I'm in elementary school trying to match outfits. So how did I deal with this situation, I started lying to her. She eventually got the point. Woman are attention seekers, at least most women are and when that attention is being diverted especially because the outfit you are wearing is being outworn by someone else it can be a little disturbing...lol.