My first....

My first kiss was horrible, he slobbered all over me and this foreign object was trying to make its way into my mouth. By the time we were done I needed a napkin to wipe my face. Hated kissing then, when I had no idea what to do, now its' not so bad.

My first trip out of the state was to Florida, I was 16. My trip was scheduled a week after TWA flight 800 crashed into the ocean. I had a heart attack. My mom gave me a rosary to carry on the plane. By the time I got off, I had an imprint of a rosary in my palm, needless to say I made it safe but I always pray right as I'm getting on the plane and I always look for babies, God wouldn't take their lives so early in the game...lol

My first trip to the Statue of Liberty occurred after 27 years of living in New York, after having been born in Kings County Hospital. Yes its a shame, so what! At least I did it. A wonderful experience it was too.

My first job, I worked at a corporate daycare center. I made 8$/hr, I was 16 and on cloud nine. I loved my job, loved my paychecks and spent the most money on clothes in probably all my life. It was a great experience for different reasons, met 3 of my good friends there, learned how to run a program all on my own and realized two kids is more than enough.

On and Off....

I've had the unfortunate opportunity of meeting people who have dysfunctional personalities. Individuals in particular who are like light switches. They turn on an off depending on which direction the wind is blowing. Now don't get me wrong, I can be the same way to a certain extent. I only become like this when someone has done something that is truly disrespectful or who I no longer feels deserves me in their life. (Yes I think I'm that special) However, I do not turn on and off like a light switch from Monday to Tuesday, of the same week! Nor does my light switch get turned back on once it is off.


Those kinds of people I have little patience for. You will not laugh and joke with me today and then act like I killed your mother the next day and assume on the third day we're friends. I don't do fake superficial friendships, either I'm in it or I'm not. If I don't like you, you'll know because there will be no conversation held. Yes, I'm that real! I don't sugar coat or pretend, it's not part of who I am.

I think it is very childish for these individuals to believe that this behavior is acceptable. It is not and actually these people need help. Everyone has issues in their lives. We all walk around with burdens on our shoulders, but to take those things out on the people around us is absolutely inappropriate. So if someone turns off their light switch for me, keep it off, cut the electricity, I'll find my light somewhere else.

You Don't Know What You've Got Til Its' Gone.....

We see this scenario play itself out so many times. You're dating someone, you're giving 150% of yourself, bending over backwards to be the best person you can be and things don't work out for whatever reason. You're beating yourself up wondering what you could have done to change things. The answer is nothing, for many different reasons.

The number one reason for me is that God didn't want that for me, because if he did it would have worked out. I would have got the same effort that I gave in return. You see the saying goes, if you want to hear God laugh, make plans. So no amount of affection, or love, or good will would make that person want you, it's just not meant to be. What will be for you, will be...Que Serra Serra.

And sometimes you meet people who just don't appreciate how good you are. They take for granted your kindness, your love. They don't appreciate you until you're no longer there giving them your all. That's typical, its the nature of people to take others for granted. We do it everyday when someone does something for us and we don't say Thank You, the simplest form of appreciation.

If you're the person taking someone for granted, check yourself before you wreck yourself...lol. Know and appreciate a good thing when you've got it, those don't come along too often. If you're the under appreciated don't fret, there is always someone out that it will see you for who and want you are and cherish you, for all the days of your life.

I'm Baccckkk!....A Good Man

So it's been a minute since I've voiced my opinion on some things. A lot has been going on, I'm done with nursing school, officially a Registered Nurse and my lonely days are over. Things are going in the right direction and since they are I can speak on certain things now.

What's a good man? Oh I wondered for oh so long what a good man was. Was he attractive? Was he rich? Was he a go getter? I wondered what a good man would be and even put some people in that category who didn't deserve the title. My sister gave me some good advice one day, she said "pray on it," and boy did I.
I didn't leave one requirement out and for a long time I waited, waited and prayed. You see the problem with women is sometimes we're drawn to what's not good for us. We're drawn to the bad boy, trying to change his ways and make him see that we're the "One." What a horrible way to start anything.

How do you start any relationship? You become friends, you talk about life, what your goals are, what your expectations are for people in your life and you gauge whether you and that person share the same views. Friendship is the foundation for all relationships. Ultimately we aim not to hurt our friends. You laugh with your friends, you're honest with your friends, you share all your hopes, dreams and aspirations with them. So you can imagine what a relationship based on friendship would feel like. It's fulfilling, for both individuals.

What's most important is that when you're praying for this significant other you pray for the right things. The superficial things won't get you far, good looks won't pay the bills, but a motivated person will. A rich person won't fill your heart with love, but someone who walks in the light of the Lord will love you from the bottom of their heart. Just be specific when you're praying. Know what you want and what's important to you.