Marriage...not for the faint of heart.

Marriage is a wonderful thing, a test of maturity, of love and endurance. How much you're willing to compromise plays a huge factor in the success of a marriage. It truly is a bond of two becoming one. Decisions are no longer made alone but as a unit. They don't only affect one individual but two. I know that as an individual who was very independent and dependent on myself adjusting to allowing my husband to be the "man" , was and still is a test of my will. Sometimes as a woman whose taken care of herself it's hard to let someone else do things for me. Marriage is a learning experience and I'm learning.

Marriage is far from a walk in the park, you have to put in work to make it work. Communication is key. You have to be able to talk about things that are bothering you and really make a conscious effort to improve the things that need improvement. For instance, I nag, sometimes...lol. So I'm learning to let some things go. I certainly am not perfect nor is my mate so something's just need to get swept under the rug. On the other hand never let something fester to the point of jeopardizing your relationship. Things that are really worh talking about should be discussed without hurting each others feelings. All in all, marriage is a beautiful thing, you have someone in your corner 24/7, I don't go through anything alone, my husband is by my side always and that's a great feeling.

It is what it Is....

As a young adult, I had the impression that my friendships were never ending. Nothing and no one could get in the way of long term friendships. Boy was I wrong. When I became engaged to my now husband, I learned a lot about the people in my life. Not every one is happy for your happiness. Sad but true. Individuals who I confided it and thought were going to be in my life for the long haul suddenly removed themselves from my life. Was I hurt? Yes. Was I shocked? Absolutely. Did my life end? I'm writing this blog right now so I'm good.

While some people did show themselves true, others really stepped up to the friend plate. People who I didn't expect to go above and beyond really did and others who were there for me emotionally made me feel like though I had lost, I also gained. I would hope that friends would want to share in the wonderful moments in your life but that's not always the case. I'm not mad, not complaining, just thankful that I learned sooner rather than later.